Yesterday, I had my first uninvited guest RSVP to the wedding.
I am still not sure how I feel about this, for a multitude of reasons, but here are the most useful:
a) the uninvited plus one is for one of Brandon's guests, who has been asked to be an usher.
b) This particular gentleman has been known to get beyond intoxicated at weddings, and make himself a nuisance to the other guests
c) perhaps if I let him bring an uninvited date, he will only bother her, and leave my other guests alone?
d) because we have asked him to be an usher, I actually have to invite this nameless chick to the rehearsal dinner as well?!? This rehearsal dinner which already has almost 60 guests, to which I may not be able to invite my friends who are coming from England just so this guy has someone to share his hotel room?
e) I REALLY resent that this guy doesn't understand how wedding invitations work. There is a reason all this formal stuff exists about wedding invitations, and it is so that everyone understands exactly what is going on. If her name isn't on the envelope, she is not invited. Period.
So what do I do now? I could tell myself that we have room, that it isn't a big deal - but really, it is becoming a big deal for me. We got the RSVP last night, and it has been festering in my mind, distracting me from a Dance with Dragons (which halfway through is exactly as awesome as I'd hoped,) and I feel like I am not coming to a resolution on my own.